Emotional Intelligence, Daily. Start now: https://www.theschooloflife.com/subscription/ It is a fundamental law of psychology that those who were deprived of love in childhood often grow up to find it indigestible as adults. This film examines the tragic paradox of the "unloved" person: someone who claims to want a happy relationship but subconsciously ensures only misery is possible. Discover the two primary methods of self-sabotage—choosing abusive partners or fleeing from kind ones—and learn how to recognize the "nauseous" feeling of safety for what it really is: a legacy of trauma. #AttachmentTheory #ChildhoodTrauma #SelfSabotage Unlock all the content of The School of Life with a subscription to our podcast, articles, videos, and exercises, specially tailored to your needs. Get weekly insights for better relationships, deeper self-knowledge, and inner calm straight to your inbox. Sign up for more ideas, plus 10% off your first shop order: https://www.theschooloflife.com/signup/ You can read more on this and other subjects in our articles, here: https://www.theschooloflife.com/article/stop-rejecting-love-because-of-your-bad-childhood/ “It’s one of the most basic laws of psychology that deserves repetition and constant re-examination because it doesn't reach those who really need to hear it. When people have a bad childhood, they grow up to reject love as adults…” OUR COLLECTIONS https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcEwc0qydf2jSszQFSht81E https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpckOvZZ_AZjD7WM2p9-6NBv https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeUL1vz9Su7OmeghBDgmj7X https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeypJMHfNbJ4RAFkRtmAN3P https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcpxBm1RoGRx4mVKNRIrKkG https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpcp7jXVszdNruKUtHZ2zuZb https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpfv2COuuJaKzy6E2n8nSMdi https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpc1qCJ6RYYh4rKNOOlKtFIK SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-school-of-life/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theschooloflife?lang=en CREDITS Written and Narration: Alain De Botton Animation: Gemma Green-Hope https://www.gemmagreenhope.com/