My friend committed suicide many years ago and I was amazed to hear what many people thought about the subject, and how much fear and suffering this belief caused amongst families. My job as a medium is more than providing evidence of the life hereafter. Like many other mediums, I am privy to information that non-mediumistic people can’t normally perceive; information which reflects the reality of our lives here on earth and the interaction of spiritual forces within our lives.

I have also seen the other side and walked in the garden of the spirit and while it may be easier for me to deal with the process known as death, losing a loved one never becomes easier, no matter how much you know and understand.

I am often asked if I believe in the afterlife, to which I retort, “Of course I don’t believe in the afterlife, that’s absurd.” I smile enigmatically when I see the glee in their faces when they think they may have got one over on me. Then I clarify what I actually mean by that: “I don’t believe in it because belief suggests that it may not be real. I know it’s real, therefore I know it’s true.” And that’s when I see the smile wiped from their faces. The reality that I know allows me to interact on a level that creates a communion with the other side.

Suicide Reality

Now to the act of suicide, why it happens and whether it can be influenced. The turmoil that one must experience before they finally take their own life is tremendous. To reach the point of no return where it feels as though there is nothing left to live for, even though loved ones may be nearby, and being unable to express their sadness and hopelessness, or see the wood for the trees, ending one’s life feels like the only way out.

Personally, I feel there are many reasons for suicide, but two reasons are probably more fundamental than others. One problem is the financial status or indeed the financial pit they may have fallen into, and the other is the lack of love in their lives or the lack of forgiveness. This is a type of grief where an individual feels so alone and unloved that they may not realize that loved ones are near to them. It is a sad fact that men in particular often find themselves in a such a stressful financial pit that the inability to provide for themselves or their families drives them to attempt suicide which appears to be ‘an easy way out’.

Loneliness is yet another facet of a loveless life. No one can really understand why or what it takes to push a human being over the edge. Many who attempt suicide, or think they are doing it – are merely crying out for help. Obviously there are times when this cry for help can go wrong and the individual passes by accidental means. No matter what, we will never really understand the state of mind of someone who is suffering so badly that they wish to end their life, thinking it an easier way out.

Potential Suicide Influences

Another disturbing and sad aspect of taking one’s own life, is that it’s cause can actually be at the feet of a negative influence. I would like to break down this aspect into to hypothesis of thought. One school of thought is:

Peer and Group Influence

In this case, an individual can be influenced by a group or cult pressure such as the mass murder-suicide in Jonestown, South America:

“On this day in 1978, Peoples Temple founder Jim Jones leads hundreds of his followers in a mass murder-suicide at their agricultural commune in a remote part of the South American nation of Guyana. Many of Jones’ followers willingly ingested a poison-laced punch while others were forced to do so at gunpoint. The final death toll at Jonestown that day was 909; a third of those who perished were children.” (history.com)

Order Of The Solar Temple

The Order of the Solar Temple was an attempted revival of the Knights Templar and is best known for the murder-suicide of 74 of its members in 1994–97. Established in 1984 in Geneva, and still inexistence today, the temple’s religious teachings incorporated a belief that the Earth would face a worldwide catastrophe in the mid-1990s and in anticipation of this apocalyptic event, members were led to believe that it was necessary to enter a higher spiritual plane. (Brittanica) These tragic events, of course, was clearly planned with the promise of a better life on the other side, as suggested by the farewell letters that were left behind.

The other school of thought is:

Malevolent Influence from Discarnate Beings

Information about malevolent influences has been gleaned from the other side of life with testimonies from esteemed pioneers such as Edgar Cayce, Carl Wickland, Red Cloud, Silver Birch and many more. There are also examples of evil influence in the Bible, Talmud, Quran and many other religious texts.

Evil influences, whether it be from a discarnate being or a malevolent intelligence, have the same parallel of the wanted outcome, that of the destruction of the human form and controlling the will of the individual under that influence. It can, therefore, be argued that many suicides could actually be at the hands of another being or intelligence and not the real will of the subjugated individual.

I know from two of my own cases in the past, that spirit influence was at the root of the desire to commit suicide. Both cases exhibited similar modus operandi from the discarnate intelligence, who I am glad to say, were rebuked and failed in their attempts.

Man-made doctrines Vs divinity

I am not going to discuss all aspects of the spirit world here, and for those of you that want to know more, it’s all in my book, “Deadly Departed – The Do’s, Donts and Dangers of Afterlife Communication.” But I do want to make a point so that you may feel a little comfort.

I mentioned before that many individuals who have sat with me privately or in groups have had a deep-rooted fear that the individual they love may not be in the place they call heaven or wherever else you believe exists. The turmoil and anguish they put themselves through are tremendous and I can’t help feeling that false doctrine is at the bottom of it all. After all – doctrine is of man and not divine in any way.

I have news for you; those who commit suicide are taken into the loving arms of spirit people in the spirit world who love and care for them until they reach their own awakening. Of course, those that are left behind often do not understand this and fear their loved one has gone to hell or a holding place, which can often cause great distress. You can be assured this does not happen, and if you can envision your loved one in the arms of a beautiful angel or your own loved ones who have passed over, you can rest peacefully, knowing that your loved ones are safe and well.

Ok, so now you are going to ask how I know this and I don’t blame you. There is a plethora of information that has come from beyond the grave time and time again – not only in readings but in trance séances where the evidence has been irrefutable. Scientists who investigate the afterlife have so much intelligence at their fingertips that skepticism in pseudo form is no longer valid. But where the divide exists is between the ignorance of science that has no idea about the mechanics of the afterlife and tries to fit a square peg in a round hole.

Probably the most satisfying evidence is the evidence that one witnesses in a private sitting when the loved one comes back and tells how it is from the horse’s mouth – along with the evidence required for the sitter. Often our loved ones will return to try to allay the fears of those they left behind by little telltale signs they are still around. Much of the time, these signs are missed or ignored because of the deep grief that one may be experiencing or indeed because of other perceptions based on doctrines or other man-made theories.

Loved ones will often visit in your dream state just to let you now that all is well but sadly, the individual receiving the message will often put this down to their grief and need to feel they are alive. Other small signs such as hearing them calling you or manipulating energy in your environment are also often missed or dismissed. If you could only know – not believe – what I know, you would take comfort in knowing that your loved ones are not in a terrible place if they took themselves over. They are in loving arms and will let you know they are well.

In closing, what you must know is that suicide is not the easy way out, as one still has to work through things in the spirit world. This will be featured in a further article.