Emotional Intelligence, Daily. Start now: https://www.theschooloflife.com/subscription/ We are culturally programmed to believe that optimism is the fuel of love. We toast to "happily ever after," expect unblemished joy, and treat the slightest unhappiness as a sign of failure. This film argues that we have it completely backwards: pessimism is the most thoughtful, generous, and "well-aimed" gift we can offer a partner. Discover why lowering our expectations is not an act of despair, but the true beginning of mature, sustainable, and contented love. #RomanticPessimism #Relationships #Psychology Unlock all the content of The School of Life with a subscription to our podcast, articles, videos, and exercises, specially tailored to your needs. Get weekly insights for better relationships, deeper self-knowledge, and inner calm straight to your inbox. Sign up for more ideas, plus 10% off your first shop order: https://www.theschooloflife.com/signup/ You can read more on this and other subjects in our articles, here: https://www.theschooloflife.com/article/generous-pessimism-in-love/ “We think – of course – that pessimism must be the enemy of love. Yet what a properly thoughtful gift well-aimed, generously held pessimism can be to any incoming partner. What kindness it is to tell a partner, in effect or even directly: You will sometimes hate me and I will sometimes hate you, and we will think we made the worst error of our lives – but still I want, on balance, to be with you…” OUR COLLECTIONS https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcEwc0qydf2jSszQFSht81E https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpckOvZZ_AZjD7WM2p9-6NBv https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeUL1vz9Su7OmeghBDgmj7X https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeypJMHfNbJ4RAFkRtmAN3P https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcpxBm1RoGRx4mVKNRIrKkG https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpcp7jXVszdNruKUtHZ2zuZb https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpfv2COuuJaKzy6E2n8nSMdi https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpc1qCJ6RYYh4rKNOOlKtFIK SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-school-of-life/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theschooloflife?lang=en CREDITS Written and Narration: Alain De Botton Animation: Deanca Renysata https://www.deancarensyta.com/